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3.05 NOT LISTENING, HOW TO RESPOND -- SELF-HELP TACTICS FOR COPING WITH VERBAL ABUSE

== #5. How to cope with the other person not listening.

If he/she tunes you out for a long time; leave, it is not a conversation.

In this case, the other person is trying to freeze you out or wait you out until you agree with whatever he/she wants. In some cases, the other person will assume that you know what he/she wants even though by the silence you are being cut off from communication or understanding. I suspect the other person wants you to apologize, to say that you are sorry if you misunderstood, etc. Baloney! Even if you feel the urge to do this, don't. It will be that much harder the next time. Instead give yourself a lot of personal space and remove yourself.

Long term sulking or not listening is very serious. Once you start talking again, insist that you both see a counselor. Don't take no for an answer. The other person has already made it impossible to communicate.


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