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2.01 VERBAL ABUSE SELF-HELP: COPING, DEALING WITH THE ABUSER
== It is very hard to play fair with a person who is not playing fair -- and yet that really is the only choice.
If you want to break the cycle of abuse, you must both keep your cool and keep the other person from being abusive. In the process you will be showing the other person that he/she is abusive and also how to have a discussion that is not abusive. It's a tall order and one that can leave you feeling tired, drained and not wanting to be always the rational one. But it is for your good and that of your family or your relationship.
== Does it help to talk about abuse directly? To tell the other person that he/she is being abusive?
Initially I do not think it helps. It may even be counterproductive as the other person may become defensive. The best way to tackle abuse is one baby step at a time. To learn to have a reasonable argument that accomplishes something is the beginning of establishing a new pattern in your life. And being able to have a reasonable discussion is much more valuable than talking about being reasonable or being abusive.
== Do you get to raise your voice?
Yes, in a word. If he/she keeps shouting at you and will not quiet down, then after a while, you can raise your voice if only to get his/her attention and signal that you are not going to be intimidated. Once you have his/her attention, lower your voice to a reasonable level IMMEDIATELY. Otherwise you will end up in a shouting match. You need to assert that you will stand your ground while at the same time let him/her know you are willing to listen, to be flexible and to compromise. Definitely a tall order but, what the hell, it builds character :).
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