WHEN TO LEAVE AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP
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7.1 WHEN TO LEAVE AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

Consider leaving when the abuser will not listen, is inflexible, will not consider counseling, tells everyone that you are crazy or that you are the abuser, has two faces (a nice one for the world and the abusive one for you) and insists that everything be done his/her way or the highway.

This is very hard to do. It means that you will be alone, for starters. It will probably mean a break with the abuser's family. If kids are involved, you will be shuffling them back and forth and still dealing with the abuser. Also finances may be part of the picture and abusers are often difficult about money.

If you think you should leave, but cannot, insist on counseling. Sound like a broken record. Refuse to talk about anything until you both go to counseling together. Another tack is to give him/her a book to read that explains about abuse.

One of my rules, is that if you feel terrible about yourself when you are with that person, something is wrong. If your sense of who you are is very different than it had been before you met that person, something is wrong. The way you feel about yourself, your sense of identity, is key.


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