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9.1 CURRENT UNDERSTANDINGS OF ABUSE -- TYPES AND CATEGORIES OF ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR

==== Current Understandings Of Abuse

Even though we have come a long way in the last 100 years, we have just begun to see the extent of abusive behavior. In 2006 many abusive problems are only beginning to be dealt with. For example:

=== Men who are abused by their wives are often assumed by the police to be the perpetrator of the domestic violence and are arrested. As of this writing I have found numerous stories on the Internet about men being improperly arrested due to the prejudice of police.

==== Parents with abusive teenagers who terrorize a family have trouble getting help and understanding. Parents are told to control their children.

=== Siblings who are abused by another brother or sister are ignored because "kids will be kids, and boys will be boys and they'll grow out of it." I think that this is the least understood and most common abuse that is not yet fully recognized. I know. My brother made my life a living hell for the entire time I was growing up and my parents ignored it, dismissing it as the normal squabbles between two boys.

=== Recent statistics show young women are often as physically abusive as men.

=== While statistics for verbal and emotional abuse state that 75% of the abuse is caused by men and 25% by women, I believe we will eventually find that the abuse is about equal. Women are more sophisticated verbally than men and better at hiding their behavior.

=== Being different can get you killed. In an example of social abuse, Brian Deneke was murdered in 1997 at the age of 19 in Amarillo, Texas. This had been preceded by months of beatings from the 'whitehats', the jock, football, good, normal high school kids. He was killed because he dressed differently in a punk style and therefore was labeled a bad kid, even though everyone characterized him as loving, caring, giving and different. He was killed by one of the 'good normal kids' who ran him down and then backed over him in his car.

=== Bullying is just being dealt with. The tragedy at Columbine in 1999 was caused in part by a school culture of bullying that was tolerated by school officials.

=== When Women Batter Men
=== About Battered Men
=== Sibling Abuse: Telling The Difference Between Rivalry And Abuse
=== The Rising Incidence Of Girl Violence: The Murder Of Reena Virk, A Young Girl, By Six Other Girls
=== History and Timeline of the Columbine Tragedy
=== Brian Deneke murder


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